August 8, 2010

• "You can't control an independent heart..."

  A simple phrase that I stumble across sets my mind on a path to find answers. The problem is, like almost always, I find far more questions than answers. But I do see so much truth in this one, just a fragment of a thought. I see how people that have claimed they care, or love, do so not because of what they wish to give, but because of what they can control. When I look at relationships, my own and those I've seen, it seems that there is almost always some form of battle going on, that one, or both, have these "needs" that they use as excuses to try and force the other to fill. "If you love me you'll do..." Sometimes it's very blatant, an outright demand. More often it's simply hinted at... said as an aside, or a dig, after the fact, using shame and guilt as more weapons to get the responses we want.

  Do you do it? Lmao... I don't want to admit it, but I can see that I do. Disconcerting...

  But that's the thing...

  If I don't need anything from you. You have no way to control me. You see, it works both ways.

  I'm beginning to believe that true love happens when there are people who 'are' independent that choose to share what's best in themselves with others. Who don't need to have us confirm what's been done, they can give this, and never wonder if it has done what was intended. The act of giving was all that was required. Accomplished?... doesn't matter, not to me, the only need I felt was the one to share want I know could help. All I can hope beyond that is that it will be received and put to use.

  And even when it isn't, I'll give the same again.

  hmmm... first thoughts... more later, I think...

   

   

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